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How do we cultivate our self-esteem? How do we overcome our fear to try something new?
Moses had an interesting way to teach us how.
In this week’s Parasha Shmini, after seven days of trial, the service at the Mishkan (Tabernacle) is ready to begin. Aharon, the High Priest, needs to start the service, but he is afraid and ashamed. He worries that he may be unfit to serve in this important role, since he indirectly participated in the sin of the Golden Calf.
Moses called him and told him to go ahead and do his duty. Aharon listened to him and did what he had to do. What did Moses tell Aharon in order to calm his fears? Nothing. One sentence only: “Do your duty”. In other words, Moses urged him to start, to do the first step. In this way, Aharon would discover that there was no reason for him to worry. As soon as he would start, he would find out that this role was perfectly fit for him.
Sometimes, the solution to our fear is simply to do the very thing we are afraid of. Many great speakers, for instance, were afraid of speaking in public, until they actually took a microphone in their hands. When we see that we succeed, that it is not as difficult as we imagined it, our self-esteem grows and when the next time comes, we will feel more confident to do it.
I remember, a few years ago, when the father of one of my classmates passed away, was the first time I went to make a consolation visit, the Mitsva of Nichum Avelim in Hebrew. I was so afraid, I did not know what to say… I finally discovered that the mourners did not need my words. It was enough that I came and was near them. I had to do it in order for my fear to go away…
Many are afraid to try and take an active part in their Judaism. For instance, they do not know how to see the Kidush and lead the Shabbat table. The best is for them to simply do it. To jump into the deep end.
Try to keep the Shabbat, even just some of its Misvot. Start from somewhere and you will see that you can do it. You will discover that it is not that complicated and how much joy it brings to the one who keeps it.
Shabbat Shalom,
Hanna